Tenant and friend of sorts in an eviction situation.

[ohiofarmer 3,318]

Long story of sorts is I need my house back. There are lots of issues here and trying to to do the right thing ....

    I have been renting my little house to this guy for fifteen years. His brother in law is a good person and late eighties who already has enough to do taking care of his MS afflicted son. B. Is the tenant and his health has declined to the point that he has been put in long term care. B broke his ankle ten years ago and I took him to the VA that time . His condition got to the point now because he never went back and had follow up work done. If you can imagine living alone with very painful condition and incontinence at the same time.... He couldn't walk and started having ppl take him for groceries. The day I took him ,it was a gallon of ice cream, two bags of Halloween sized Snickers, cookies hot dogs,and hamburger Po patties.

    He is the type of guy who you never want to accept a kindness from because then you owe him a favor or ten in return.His brother in law had been picking up his soiled clothes and washing them and the odor in the house coming from the hamper was intense.

    If t came to a head when B called a neighbor after he fell and couldn't get up. Then he fell again and I was called. They called the rescue and the VA will not permit delivery from an EMT. They were kind enough to load him in his car and I drove it to the VA. That's enough for one installment,and if you drop out now, I understand.  All kinds of drama to follow 

[ri702bill 8,878]

For the best of everyone's sake - he is overdue to be able to stay alone - he is "a danger to himself". Time for him to look into assisted living.

 

Remind him that the VA may soon be just a shadow of itself... if he requires medical care, the assisted liging facility will arrange it.

 

Been there, done that with my older sister who was living by herself after my BIL passed away. The underlined phrase above is key to get the "right" folks to listen to the situation - but - since you are not a blood relative, your word is heresay. Best of luck on this one....

[ohiofarmer 3,318]

Well the VA put him in assisted nursing care. Medicaid is taking over. That doesn't make sense to me in that putting a vet into civilian care does not seem proper. Like I said doing the right thing by me is gonna get complicated 

 More later..  The worst is B's mental acceptance of his situation.

More later

[ri702bill 8,878]

Sounds familiar... had to jump thru hoops to get my sister mentally evaluated by qualified staffing - her regular psychiatrist was nothing more than a bean pusher - worthless.

Had to PROVE she was a danger to herself..... she was court ordered to go for 30 days. Once at the assisted living facility, she loved it... eating well, getting her meds on time, plenty of diversified social activities (some that we were invited to also). It made a huge difference. She stayed there 7 years until her dimentia rapidly progressed and she was deemed to need 24/7 care in a nursing home setting...

Edited Thursday at 02:23 PM by ri702bill

[ohiofarmer 3,318]

So B was on assisted housing and good stamps eventually after being on a waiting list for the housing. He struggled greatly for a year until he made it through the waiting list.  

    When he got social security the house took 65 percent of his check. But later in the process he got thirty dollars gas and thirty dollar electric bills regardless of the true cost. Also a free phone.So even at 700 a month fixed income all he  has to pay is 150 rent and utilities as mentioned before. So if you wonder about junk utility fees you pay, that's what pays for the subsidy. He managed to always have a car with insurance for the rest

   My only solution is to write him a registered letter and inform him that they cancelled his rent subsidy and to inform him what the rent will be if he wants to keep his possessions there. To keep out of the courts and all those fees for eviction I will have to store his stuff in an outside shed as it is still on the premises.

    The state will get everything he has because he has no will and two days ago Medicaid took his bank account.

    So here we all are and B probably had no idea what has occurred.

[Beap52 1,097]

Issues like this thread is about can difficult to navigate. 

 

Mom is in assisted living. She is doing much better because she is there.  We still drop by at least every other day. 

 

One of the ladies in mom's assisted living was brought and dropped off by her daughter.  The daughter never comes to visit and the lady has 25 dollars a month to spend on her personal needs.  Other than doctor visits she does not leave the building.  I always make an effort to greet her whenever I see her. 

 

The best we can do is assist folks in these situations and I sounds like several here are doing so.